Hello, my pretties! How are you all doing? Well, I hope! How is life treating you all? Are you staying home? Going to work because your job is essential? Any way you are living right now, please stay safe!
Since many of us are currently working at home, and that makes family life (for those who don’t live alone like I do) quite challenging while we all learn how to navigate this whole mess, I’ve decided to drop by for another chat today.
One of the hardest things I have seen people talking about is establishing boundaries between work and home life, since they’re both existing in the same space now for a lot of us.
For me, since I’ve been working at home since 2012, and, as mentioned above, live alone (since 2013), establishing boundaries within the home is not a problem. Outside my home can still be a problem every now and then, as a lot of people assume I’m not working, but I’m doing my best to fix that perception.
That has led me to the idea of boundaries in general, and how we navigate them.
I was raised by a mother for whom boundaries were poison. If I had any kind of boundaries, I was either selfish or hiding something. If I didn’t want to have my things given away to her friends (it was always my things, never hers, or my brother’s, or my father’s) or didn’t want her tearing my bedroom apart and reading my journals and letters, there was obviously something wrong with me.
Once I moved away from the parental home, I went to the opposite extreme, and locked up my boundaries like Fort Knox. I didn’t tell anyone anything. I didn’t ask for help. I kept my entire life under lock and key.
After a few years adjusting, I’ve learned where to relax my boundaries – sharing things with friends and trusted family members, asking for help when needed – and when to stick to them – when someone is trying to guilt-trip me or walk all over reasonable boundaries.
What about you, reader? How do you handle your boundaries? Loosely? Fort-Knox style? Something in between? I’d love to hear from you in the comments! If you can, tell me how you’re coping with the current moment too!
See you all on the next post!