Life update – 16-07-2021

Hello, my pretties! How are you all? Doing well, I hope! I’m still alive and kicking, even though I haven’t been posting nearly as much as I’d like. To combat that, I’m putting in the effort to post a life update every Friday or Saturday, and touch on some random theme while I’m at it, since who wants to just hear me talk about my boring life? :) I must share my boring opinion as well!

On the life side: managed to get my flu shot (it’s winter here) yesterday. No reactions, except for a really sore arm, so I’ve got that going for me. Covid vaccines here in my city are still 42 years old and up, so it’s going to take a while until I can get it. I have to wait two weeks in between vaccines anyway, so nothing left to do. Still feeling really burned out with work and everything, and needing to get a vacation – or staycation – some time soon. Maybe that’ll get the creative juices flowing again, or so one would hope.

The theme today: the sacralization of the act of giving birth. Notice that I’m not talking about motherhood, which is a very involved and life-long process of raising a child and still providing emotional support and friendship as the child morphs into an adult. I’m talking about simply having given birth to a child they may or may not be raising and acting as though that makes such person a special being worthy of all reverence. In my opinion, excuse my French, this is a steaming pile of bullshit. The situation that made me think of this was a thread on Reddit (which I won’t link here) where a lady who had given up her biological son for adoption was proclaiming her right to disregard the adoptive parents’ request that she did not take pictures of the child and post them on social media during the visits they allowed her to have with the boy. Her answer as to why she felt that she had this right was “I am his mother”. And the overwhelming answer was “no, you are not. The person who adopted him, is raising him, living with him and paying for his every expense is his mother”. I tend to agree with that. I’m not going to demonize people who give up their biological child for adoption. I believe that, in a place where abortions are illegal or very hard to get (such as my country) or if the person has moral objections to abortions but feels that she can’t raise the child, adopting the child out to someone who can is a very responsible decision. But… you are no longer the mother after the child is adopted.

I would love to hear your opinions on the matter.

Have a nice day and see you on the next post!

12 thoughts on “Life update – 16-07-2021”

    1. Oof, I’ve heard this from more than one person. Girlfriend was knocked down on her butt after it. I’m lucky they give it on Saturdays, having to work after it sounds like hell! Thank you so much for the heads up!

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  1. I agree with your point of view on this birthing thing. Yes, the woman that carries a child to term has put up with a lot in those 9 months. Yes, the woman that carries a child to term has made some significant effort. BUT… You are right. Giving birth does not make you a proper mother. Being a parent after the birth makes you a proper mother. I agree that the rights of the person who actually gave birth to a child but chose not to raise it, has little to no right to the life of that child If the child is given up for adoption. Thus, the phrase, “give up for adoption”… emphasis on GIVE UP.

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    1. Hey, Scott! Thanks, you actually expressed this much more eloquently than I did! It kind of makes me at the least raise an eyebrow when I see birth parents act like the adoptive parent is a glorified babysitter. But then again, I’m a soulless and childless being, so what do I know! :) Hope you’re doing alright and taking care of yourself!

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