August 20, 2021 Theme: The Narcissist’s Prayer

Hey there, everyone! How are you all doing? Well, I hope!

I’m back today with another theme for this week! I was going to talk about narcissistic mothers, from my own experience, but I ended up thinking of something more general and more curious – the narcissist’s prayer. I’ll also add a few very short comments to every line.

I couldn’t find an author for it, but here it goes (I’ll add one if I ever find the name), with some short notes on the side. I found it on this site. (

That didn’t happen. (Denial/Gaslighting/Rewriting reality)
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. (Minimizing the events)
And if it was, that’s not a big deal. (Minimizing the effects of said events)
And if it is, that’s not my fault. (Refusing to take responsibility for their actions)
And if it was, I didn’t mean it. (Sort of taking ownership, but still dodging responsibility)
And if I did, you deserved it. (Blame shifting/Blaming the victim)

Have you ever had someone try that one on you? Or dealt with a narcissist in any other way? I’d love to hear about your experience in the comments, as well as any ideas for future themes you have!

Thank you for dropping by, and I’ll see you on the next post!

6 thoughts on “August 20, 2021 Theme: The Narcissist’s Prayer”

  1. You said it right Jay. We are currently dealing with a manipulative narcissistic 90 year old parent right now that can’t see beyond the end of his own nose. Not something you enjoy. Stay well. Allan

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  2. My first serious girlfriend late in high school was much as described here. It definitely took a toll on me. I think since I now recognize the traits for what they are and steer clear. Some narcissistic folks are very good at being such, so good that they can get you to question yourself. Always be vigilant.
    Interesting food for thought, Jay.

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    1. Making you question yourself is absolutely part of their playbook. It’s scary how some people can be so… detached? Evil? It’s hard to find the right term, but you’re 100% right when you mention steering clear. It’s the only way to stay safe.

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      1. What term to describe the nature of such people is a good question. I guess it depends on the reason for the behavior. If the narcissist enjoys being what they are, then “evil” is a good term. I would say that detached is the emotional state of an evil narcissist. If the manipulation, etc. is a defense mechanism – so to speak – for insecurity, some sort of mental trauma, etc., then I’m not sure what term describes their nature. Then the narcissism is more of a behavior than a belief, if you take my meaning.
        Either way, falling under their influence is not good for anyone.

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        1. Yes, I think a lot depends on where it comes from – abuse from another narcissist or being raised with a sense that they can do no wrong and never suffer the consequences of their actions. I can have some sympathy for the former (while still wanting nothing to do with them) and none for the latter. I think self-obsessed might be a good way to describe them as well, as they are the only important people in their own world. It’s a tricky thing, but staying away from them or guarding one’s emotions is the only thing that can be done.

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