How do you support other bloggers?

Hey, everyone! How are you all doing? Well, I hope!

I’m… alive. Life has been chaotic this year, more and more work piled on me, and I’ve been feeling sort of burned out, but such is life. I think everyone’s struggling at the moment.

Speaking of struggles, I thought I’d talk about those in a more general way.

This weird and wonderful group of people called bloggers, you know – like me, and probably you reading this post – has been struggling as well. We’re tired, we’re isolated (if not physically locked at home, we’re probably still struggling with socialization), we’re scared – just like everyone else. Some of us – I’m definitely guilty of that – haven’t been posting or interacting as much as we used to.

So, here’s what I’m here for – to ask a question: how can I support you? I have to admit my energy has been limited lately, but I want to support my fellow bloggers in any way I can. So, share it with me in the comments, and I’ll do my best to help!

Love you all, take care!

Where’s the logic?

Hello, everyone! How are you all doing? Well, I hope! I’m doing just fine (well, as much as possible in these times)!

After playing a bit of a disappearing act, I’m here to talk about… things. As usual.

So, very recently, we have had three confirmed cases of COVID in my parents’ building (we live in the same complex, but mine has no cases so far). This led to them begging me not to use the elevators anymore when I visit them, which I’m happy to do. It’s just two flights of stairs, and I understand why they would feel that’s unsafe.

The logic there is sound. Until you look at their own behavior outside of that.

Basically, in their personal logic, these things I do are going to kill us all:

Using elevators;
Doing my grocery and other shopping online and having things delivered;
Ordering the occasional take out.

While these things they do are perfectly fine and safe:

Going out more than once a week to buy whatever they need (even though both myself and younger neighbors have offered to buy their groceries or order online for them);
Since they’re already going out anyway, visiting multiple households on the same outing (none of those people – not even themselves – have been vaccinated yet, and some of them “don’t believe” in masks).

Can you find the logic there? If you can, please explain it to me! Is there anyone in your life who has this kind of interesting logic? Share it with me in the comments!

See you on the next post! (Whenever it happens)

Quarantine update – 06/13/2020

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My pumpkin plant – Photo by Jay Souza, 06/13/2020

Hello, my pretties! How are you all? Doing well, I hope! I have been doing well enough, surviving the pandemic without catching the virus and just trying to stay sane, you know. And since I have a little more free time, here I am again to post one more update on my isolated life. Without further ado, let us move on to the updates nobody really cares about, shall we?

Work – Nothing’s really changed since my latest post. I’m still working part-time, and enjoying this new work-life balance. I have been considering the lateral move to another department, and wondering if I should grab my boss for a conversation. I might see what I can do, but, for now, I’m focusing on my work and running the company blog, so that will keep me busy enough.

Family – I could say not much has changed here either, but some things had. My brother is still refusing to talk to me, but my niece contacted me asking me to follow her YouTube channel. She’s eight, and I’m not sure how I feel about that, but it’s not my call, sadly. I also got a call today by a dear aunt who had been battling depression for a long time, and she sounds so much better! She seems to have found her will to live again and I couldn’t be happier.

Hobbies – As far as these go, nothing has changed either. I’ve been crocheting a lot and gardening on the side, as the surprise plants are going. I’m hoping weather will get better soon so I can go pull some weeds outside, here’s hoping!

Physical and mental health – My physical health is good, as usual, no signs of the virus here. My mental health has been iffy lately, some not-so-pleasant thoughts popping up in the middle of the night, but I’m doing the best I can to take good care of myself and not let them consume me.

Writing – I have been trying to write a little more fiction. For now, I’m looking for some prompts and working on developing the initial plot lines into an actual story. Should I write them in English, I’ll share them here.

RP Site – The RP site I mentioned some time ago is finally live! We are 6 members total and have 21 characters created. We’re a small group, but we’re active and there are plots and threads already going on. I’m very excited about it!

Well, I guess this is it for now! Not a lot has been happening, but life’s good! What are you all doing? Any news to share? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

See you all on the next post!

One more month ends…

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Hello, my pretties! How is everyone doing? I hope you are all healthy and safe! I’m doing as well as it can be expected in these crazy times. And, since it’s the last day of the month, I thought it would be nice to share a little update. Without further ado, here we go:

1- I’m still working part-time. I have to confess I really enjoy it, and I’ve been seriously considering either asking if I can stay part-time on this job or look for something that allows me to work better hours;

2- I’ve been allowed to take on our company blog as a project, and my manager is encouraging me to look into marketing courses for a lateral move – this looks promising;

3- I haven’t left the house this month yet, and I am getting restless, but I know we’re not living in normal times, so I’m trying to resist;

4- I have gone ahead and created the roleplaying forum, and I’ve got three members with me – we’re creating characters and plots, and I feel this will be fun;

5- Intercom guy has left me alone and the doormen don’t seem upset, so I think everything is fine;

6- My brother still refuses to talk to me, but he’s sent several texts to our mother complaining about how I don’t reach out to him. This behavior really doesn’t make me want to.

I think that’s all I had to share right now. How about all of you? Are you doing well? Any news to share? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

Quarantine update

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Hello, my pretties! How are you all doing? Well, I hope! I’ve been… staying alive in quarantine. It has been a while since I’ve posted, so I thought it would be nice to show up here and update everyone on what has been going on with me and ask for updates on what has been going on with you all.

Without further ado, here are my updates:

1- I’ve been moved to working part time, so until second order, I’m working from 8:30 to 12:30. I like these new hours well enough;

2- Despite this fact, folks from work still keep wanting to do meetings, calls and emails when I’m off – I’m trying to set boundaries on that;

3- Even though I’m working four hours per day instead of eight, I’ve been permanently exhausted, and the fact that people keep pushing for me to do work stuff when I shouldn’t be working doesn’t help;

4- I have left the house twice – once to get medication for myself and the parents, and once to get groceries for the next month. Both outings happened with all the due care – masks and social distancing, and despite the fact I had nothing exciting happen and the mask conflicts with my glasses, it felt nice to go places;

5- I have been toying with the creation of a roleplaying forum I may or may not ever open – should it never see the light of day, I’ll at least have had fun creating it;

6- I was home yesterday getting some rest, and my intercom went off. I picked it up and there was this guy I didn’t know speaking. He was going on and on about whether or not I had a moment, if I was doing alright, blah blah blah. And I’m here thinking ‘what the hell is that?’. After some poking and prodding I found out said random guy ‘saw me walking around and thought I was pretty (spoiler alert: I am not, homeboy needs his eyes checked) and found out my name, building and apartment from the nightwatchman in order to “get to know me better”. He kept insisting on asking for my phone number to chat and asking me if I am ‘taken’. I’m not particularly happy with myself by saying yes, I am taken, but whatever it takes, I guess. I just have to admit a part of me is really pissed off that this person whose face I don’t know saw fit to find out where I live and intercom me to flirt and feeling kind of unsafe and hoping he’s just awkward or looking to hit it off with anyone and I was just his first attempt or one in a string of women whose numbers he tried to get. A part of me thinks that I may be overreacting, but as someone with a history of rejected males getting violent with me… yeah, I don’t feel safe at all. Ugh.

Well, that’s all I have to offer as updates for now… I’d love to hear yours! Are you staying safe, healthy and somewhat sane? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

See you all on the next post!

Self care in times of coronavirus

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Hello, my pretties! How are you all? I hope you’re doing well and staying safe!

I have been doing my best to stay safe and sane while dealing with the changes and uncertainty these times bring.

A conversation I had last night with my amazing friend Laura got me thinking about how we all are – or are not – taking care of our mental health during these trying times.

I know it sounds selfish to practice self care when people are dying, losing their jobs and living in fear every day. It’s not. You need to stay sane so you can help others – or at least keep yourself from doing anything that could be harmful to those around you.

With that in mind, these are the measures I have been applying that have been useful in keeping me balanced, in no particular order:

  • Opening the windows early (at around 5 or 6 am) to catch that morning breeze;
  • I have uninstalled Discord from my phone and muted most of the servers I’m a member of, muted Facebook chat and all of my Whatsapp and Telegram chats that are not my parents or work-related – this allows me to control how much social contact – and exposure to never ending talks about the virus – I expose myself to daily;
  • I have stopped watching the news and started receiving them on my email. This way, if I’m overwhelmed, I can read the titles and stay informed without having to hear of every stress-inducing detail – and read further when I feel stable enough to know more;
  • One hour before bed, it’s digital silence time. I close up all of my chats, mute every chatting client, and close every ‘serious’ site on my laptop and phone. The only things allowed then are ASMR videos, relaxing games and the occasional (not too serious) blog;
  • I have committed to not making any big decisions (moves, purchases, changing jobs, cutting contact with people) unless they are pressing and urgent until things go back to normal;
  • Naps. This situation is incredibly exhausting, and sometimes you really need a quick nap to face the rest of the day;
  • Showers. When I feel really overwhelmed, I take a break and hop in the shower for a few minutes, just letting the water fall over me and wash away the worst of the anxious feeling;
  • Creativity. I have been engaging in creative writing with others and/or solo when I can find the energy, and it really brings me joy, even if I do just a tiny bit at a time;
  • Kindness – towards myself and others. We’re all having a hard time and, while we’re all doing our best, we may not be our best selves right now.

These measures have been helping me stay balanced and sane while we all try to survive and come out of this as unscathed as possible.

What are the measures you are taking? Does any of these sound like something that could help you? I sure hope so!

Take care, stay kind and have faith – we’ll all come out of this, we just need to be patient!

See you all on the next post!

Quarantine update: how is everyone?

Hello, my pretties! How are you all doing? I hope  you’re all safe and healthy!

I have been safe, healthy and bored out of my mind, so I came here to update you all on what has been going on. I hope you all will update me as well, I want to know that you’re safe!

Days since I’ve left the apartment complex: 19 (last day was March 8).

Physical health status: Just fine.

Mental health status: Could be better, could be worse.

What I have been doing: Still working, though there isn’t a lot to do. Mostly meetings and emails to figure out what we’re going to do to stay afloat. Reading a lot of sites, blogs, etc, I had on my bookmarks. Writing for roleplays (collaborative writing), both blog (this one and the one in Portuguese), working on doing some fiction writing. Sleeping a lot when I’m not working. The very rare visit to parents (who live in the same complex) to check on them.

New developments: My older brother saw fit to send me a barrage of text messages last night berating me because my mother told him I was there for dinner. Because my presence there (not the fact that they refuse to stay at home) will give them coronavirus. And it doesn’t matter that they ask me to go, “I have to make a hard decision and not give in”. When I pointed out that I have nothing to give them as I have been isolated for over two weeks, he told me to “stop being defensive and listen to him”. Now he’s upset because I muted him (it was that or telling him where to shove his “advice”). He didn’t mean to upset me! He is just worried because he got sick (way across the country) and didn’t have the proper medical attention (no, he didn’t have COVID-19). He was just trying to have a conversation with me! Yeah, whatever. He’s not here, he doesn’t know what is happening but he thinks he knows it all. So yeah, nah. I’ll continue to stay home, and he’ll continue to be muted. I did tell my parents I won’t be visiting anymore and they’re super upset, but honestly? I don’t want to have anything blamed on me if they catch it on one of the outings they absolutely must go on.

Oof, that was a long and ranty one. But I really needed a moment to vent.

It’s your turn now, though! How are you doing, physically and mentally? Are you safe and taking care of yourselves? Anything you want to share, vent or rant about? Share it with me in the comments!

See you all on the next post, and stay safe!